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On Thursday 2/13/25 I had the opportunity to speak at a single mom’s workshop hosted by Serenade Heights.
It was so fun to see these single mamas be gifted with flowers and chocolates and be served a great dinner for themselves and their children.
I was honored to give my testimony, tell the story of how Beyond Brokenness started, and also give these beautiful moms my “Top Ten” list of dating well.
Here they are:
1. You have to work on yourself first. You can’t go from heartache and wounding to a healthy relationship without healing in yourself. Time is needed to heal. Jesus is the healer and only His healing will do.
2. You are not desperate!!You may be lonely, tired, hurt, have the desire to be cared for and loved, but you are not desperate because God is pursuing you the way a man should. With love, kindness and humility. Lean into Him.
3. Your children are not dating. Protect them from the uncertainty of dating life. Protect their hearts and only introduce them to a man you know will love them and you.
4. Don’t be stupid twice. Be aware and don’t repeat the same mistakes out of your own hurts and pain.
5. You can’t fix someone else. You can’t make a man “happy” enough to be healed and ready for you. That is an illusion and is devastating to any relationship.
6. Don’t marry someone’s potential. Don’t ignore red flags because he has potential. At this stage in life, and with children, potential isn’t enough.
7. He must have a huge heart. We are single moms with MOM being the key word. He must have enough love to give to us and our children. We are a package deal.
8. Be picky. Most of us don’t set the bar of our aspirations as high as they should be, because somewhere on the inside we’ve decided we’re not worthy. This is a Lie from the enemy!!!
9. Make a list of characteristics that are important to you. Ask the lord what His very best for you looks like. Stay dedicated to that list and choosing well in your next man. Don’t waver because it’s worth it to wait for the right person.
10. Pray for the next man and trust God. Trust His time, His ways, and His love for you!!
At the end of the workshop, we each made our “Absolutely Yes” lists and our “Absolutely Ick” lists. I also reminded them of the promises in God's word and how unimaginably BIG His love is for them and their children.
Thank you, Nancy Tucker and Serenade Heights,
for allowing me to share with your group.
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